I propose that in six months’ time, we meet up with intention of reaching forgiveness, once and for all. In person… And after all we’ve been through, I think it is the most dignified and honest way to finish this chapter of our story.
Icelandic Thordis Elva and Australian Tom Stranger were a happy, ordinary teenage couple, until one evening when Tom raped his then-girlfriend. Their relationship ended without one word about the traumatic event that preceded their breakup. Nine years later, Thordis reaches out to Tom via email.
Another eight years, and hundreds of searingly honest emails later, Thordis and Tom have decided they’re done carrying guilt and shame, and travel across the globe and meet face-to-face. Their extraordinary journey is chronicled in their joint non-fiction narrative South of Forgiveness.
In the lead up to International Women’s Day and Queensland Women’s Week UPLIT invites you to join Thordis and Tom in an unprecedented collaboration between survivor and perpetrator for a candid discussion with conversational maestro Richard Fidler about sexual violence and the courage required to face and end it.
Copies of South of Forgiveness will be available for purchase on the night from the SLQ Library Shop.
LINDY WEST AND THORDIS ELVA – DOUBLE BILL
The more you see, the more you save. Attend both An Evening with Lindy West and
$45 (Member) / $48 (Concession) / $52.50 (Full)



