UPLIT in partnership with State Library of Queensland present

South of Forgiveness:
An Evening with Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger


Member $30
Concession $32
Full $35
I propose that in six months’ time, we meet up with intention of reaching forgiveness, once and for all. In person... And after all we’ve been through, I think it is the most dignified and honest way to finish this chapter of our story.  

Icelandic Thordis Elva and Australian Tom Stranger were a happy, ordinary teenage couple, until one evening when Tom raped his then-girlfriend. Their relationship ended without one word about the traumatic event that preceded their breakup. Nine years later, Thordis reaches out to Tom via email.  

Another eight years, and hundreds of searingly honest emails later, Thordis and Tom have decided they’re done carrying guilt and shame, and travel across the globe and meet face-to-face. Their extraordinary journey is chronicled in their joint non-fiction narrative South of Forgiveness.  

In the lead up to International Women’s Day and Queensland Women's Week UPLIT invites you to join Thordis and Tom in an unprecedented collaboration between survivor and perpetrator for a candid discussion with conversational maestro Richard Fidler about sexual violence and the courage required to face and end it. 

Copies of South of Forgiveness will be available for purchase on the night from the SLQ Library Shop.


The more you see, the more you save. Attend both An Evening with Lindy West and An Evening with Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger and save 25%.  

$45 (Member)  /  $48 (Concession)  /  $52.50 (Full)

Book Double Bill


Thursday 2 March 2017

Duration 1 hour 10 minutes

The Edge, State Library of Queensland

The Edge, State Library of Queensland

Stanley Place, Cultural Centre, Southbank, Brisbane QLD 4101, Australia

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Thordis Elva

Thordis Elva


Thordis Elva is known to Icelanders as a writer, journalist, public speaker, and Woman of the Year 2015. Nine of her plays have been professionally produced and her book about gender-based violence earned her a nomination for the Icelandic Literature Prize. In 2011, she founded an equality campaign that sparked a national debate, and in 2012 she was commissioned to reinvent the national approach to violence prevention and sex education in Icelandic schools. She has been Chair of the Board of the Icelandic Women’s Shelter, served on government committees, and is a sought-after speaker on subjects like gender equality, reproductive rights, and non-consensual pornography. She currently resides in Stockholm, Sweden with her partner Vidir and their son. 

Tom Stranger

Tom Stranger

Tom Stranger is based in Sydney, Australia. He has worked in both the youth and outdoor recreation sector since completing his Bachelor of Social Science in 2002. He also holds a Certificate III and IV in Youth Work and is currently in the latter stages of a Masters of Cultural Studies at the University of Sydney. He lives by the Sydney harbour with his wife, Cat.    

Richard Fidler

Richard Fidler


Richard Fidler presents Conversations with Richard Fidler, an in-depth, up-close-and personal interview program broadcast across Australia on ABC Radio. He’s interviewed prime ministers, astronauts, writers and scientists, but the program often features remarkable people who are unknown to the wider world. The program attracts a large listening audience around the nation, and is the most popular podcast in Australia. Richard is the author of the best-selling book Ghost Empire, the story of his journey to Istanbul with his son Joe, to uncover the history of the lost civilization of Byzantium. In another life Richard was a member of Australian comedy trio The Doug Anthony Allstars (DAAS), which played to audiences all over the world.